(((safe hug))))

Yes, dealing with family and their extra stress too, is huge at holiday times!

If it makes you feel any better, my mom, God love her, KNOWS about my allergies, I've nearly died from them since I was 3! But one recent year, she cooked...and she knowingly put something in the food that I'm allergic to. You know what she said as I was gasping for breath? "OH, I didn't think you'd react if you didn't know it was in there!"

Why not skip the family meal on Thanksgiving? Go to the movies, if you can. Go to your favorite park (pack a picnic lunch, or sandwich and drink at least) Being out of the fray will do you much more good than sitting there feuding and force feeding yourself, or being a spectacle for the others. Even if you make your own food to eat, it won't be the same... I don't think.

It is perfectly OKAY to say, you know? I'm going to do something else this year.