Aw honey, it shouldn't matter one whit to a doctor how you ended up in his/her operating room.

I'm sorry you felt like they judged you. I certainly don't. I am sorry that you got hurt like you did.

This is a great time to request your records/x-rays precisely because you are leaving the country. They don't know if you are returning or not. Let them know that you plan to pursue "next steps" regarding your function and range of motion and the options available to you. That's all. No more, no less.

Usually, hardware is removed because it tends to want to wiggle it's way out anyway and cause protrusions much like what you experienced when shaving caused bleeding.

You are at high risk for developing arthritis down the road. But you are young, and if you plan to have additional surgery, now would probably be the best time to do it.

In the US our medical records belong to us. Only you know what the laws are in your land.
Best,
Okie