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Originally Posted by GoldenWaves
I'm not trying to be rude, but please don't pretend to be the civil one at the end of the relationship when you are the one who cheated on him. I think MOST people would have a few negative emotions regarding a cheating event, and justifiably so. I can't help but feel that you're using the bi/poly thing as an excuse, when you shouldn't be, as it just makes it look like this is a typical/to be expected bi/poly behavior when its not.
Honestly, I can see why your ex would say such bad things. I can see why he felt used. I think that if the worst he does is say a few mean things to you, then you're lucky this cheating episode ended as well as it did.
I'm not trying to be rude, rather I don't think its fair of you to tell us half the story in order to get support when you have not exactly been faithful in your relationship and cheating is what made your ex so mad.
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I admit that telling half the story is and was not a good way to handle the situation, the reason I even called him was to tell him flat out that I amdited to my mistakes and that I felt badly for hurting him. I did expect for him to just forgive and take me back and that was not what I expect to ever happen as I said before there were things that I know I did wrong in the relationship but I also he was not entirely at fault either. I actually told him if he had an issue with my being poly and not being able to deal with it we should break up cause I did not want to hurt him.
He in turn did not listen to this request, I never lied to him about anything in our relationship including the affair. Do I feel bad for it of course I do...but I can't go back and change the situation. I know people will make judgements on me for what I have done.
and even go as far as to say that my life style is the cause of it.
but I don't truly think its fair of someone to claim they accept you for how you are and then one day realize that they are not.
That seems just as much playing with someone's emotions to me.
that is not to say I don't realize the pain I cause him in this process, but this was not something I did simply for having sex. I made a deep connection with the person I cheated on and still have that with him....I told my fiance about this person and how I felt about him from the very beginning of everything.
and he pretended he was ok with it all, when in fact he was not. I advised him that if this was an issue for him that we should just end things.
I understand that what I did was wrong and I live with the hurt of what I cause him everyday, but he cause me hurt before this as well. And I personally feel that I was lied to as well about what was ok for him and what was not.