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Old Feb 07, 2017, 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Erebos View Post
Just a side note for people reading. Being bi/ poly, does not mean we all feel entitled to multiple partners.
I for one fully focus and commit to my partner. If WE want to bring someone else onto our relationship, it is after a long and Frank discussion.
We do not go about hitching up with other people and strike up separate relationships.
I just wanted to be clear on that.
Anyway to the OP, I hope you manage to be successful on your own it would prove an excellent example to others with similar disorders.
I thinkaintaining NC with your ex would be kindest on you both in the future.
All the best.
I did not expect to really talk to him again in the future and obviously the efforts I have made in the past to communicate with him in the past about adding on this new partners where totally ignored and I feel possibly twisted to his own way of thinking.

I do agree that not talking to him anymore is for the best. I just him to understand that I did feel badly about what had happened and how it happened.

I did have separate relationships which he seemed totally ok with before I had gotten together and as I said before I had spoken to him about this new person that I had meet and had an interest in for quite a while honestly.It changed from being just a friend to someone I started to have more feelings for, and I think he thinks I lied to him about that cause it changed over time.
but I was always honest with him about what was going on with things.

as I said before I don't condone how I went about with things in the long run. But I do think there was sadly factor of mis trust and unhealthy ness in our relationship that lead to this point.

I personally think it could even be debatable that he could have possible similar feelings even if this was with one of my already established girlfriends.
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