Sorry for interjecting, but I see at least in my interactions with my Aspie friend, that he wasn't able to really ENGAGE with people. For example...

A typical convo question might be.....

"how was your day today?"

An Aspie answer is likely to be....

"fine" (and that is the end of that, no more anything else in the convo unless I ask another question and it always (ALWAYS!) gets a one word response)

A NT answer is likely to be...

"it was ok, but my boss was all over me today about our latest project! The deadline is coming up soon and he wants everything to be perfect so he's hawking over us all, driving us nuts!"

See the difference?

One version is a dead end, one version lends itself to a continued conversation.

(I went through SIX years of this with my friend, no matter what I said I would always get one word answers unless he was mad at me and then whoo boy, WATCH OUT!)

So in this example I make a point....my point is to practice engaging in conversation so that something deeper can develop. You may be asked a question that has a simple one word answer, but what I think Aspies are missing is that its not JUST a question that needs an answer, rather someone is attempting to engage with you so that they can get to know you. Does this make sense?

If you give one word/simple answers, the conversation becomes very difficult, the NT person gets the message that you are not interested, and that is the end of that. They move on and you are left wondering what happened?

And I've heard Aspies say "why should I have to change?" Well, its pretty simple. The world is the way that it is, and if you want to be a part of the world, it is you who will have to adjust. I am not saying this to be rude. I have PTSD myself and I cannot expect the world to change one bit in order to accommodate my disorder. Its actually like this with just about every disorder out there. We must be the ones who change because we cannot change the world (with the exception of disability accommodations and things like that, but these are on a legal level, not a relational level....two very different things.)

Sorry if I sound venty, I just wish my friend was as open to change as you are. He won't change a thing and thinks everything is a-o-k, or rather all problems are my problems, I should just accept that he has this disorder and my needs aren't important in the least.