because, hon, when it sucks, it really sucks. we can't compare to other's fams. it sucked for you - you needed to escape. now you need the fam you didn't get. but you can't replace it. it is tangled, and sticky... and it sucks. we have to learn to be our own fam - our own mom and dad and siblings.... i have been working with the book Growing Up Again. it's good stuff.

((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))
kiya