Some of you have followed my journey so I thought I would report that I delivered my closure letter to my ex-therapist a little over a week ago. I told her I had something I wanted to give her in person. To my surprise she agreed to stop by my work.

After a few words explaining why a letter and why now, I held out the letter and she asked "are you sure you want to give it to me". I immediately told her that I almost backed out the day before. Later I got upset she even asked me that question. I explained that the letter explains what I think happened and I was worried she would be upset after reading it. I told her I have no hard feelings, am at peace and am moving on. I said I hope when I see her next everything is ok. She told me I wouldn't know if it isn't. I was irritated that she was making me question reality when I see her. After some small talk, she left my office. I felt great, at peace and like I could really move on.

I saw her several days later at a school function and she blatantly ignored me despite my effort to make eye contact. It didn't bother me as I thought she may have been embarrassed after reading my letter. Ironically, I used advice she used to give me and assumed her behavior had nothing to do with me.

I haven't seen her since but have come to terms that I may have completely ended the cordial manner in which we used to interact when we saw each other. I chose telling my truth in hopes of getting closure. My therapist and I are now moving on to talking about my deceased mom.

Anyway, for those who have been terminated and think you will never improve, you can. I had great help from the next therapist and realized where my last therapy went wrong. Once I figured out why I had all my feelings, I could slowly put them in the past. My ex-T will probably forever be in my mind but it was a very profound experience. Most importantly - I no longer let her or that experience define me.