Yeah, I'm ambivalent, too. I've decided I quite like it trimmed really quite short. But shaving does get itchy and it takes ages to get everything all smooth and then it is scratchy the next day. I get ingrown hairs and bumps when I do that too which I really don't like.

I think you can wax but you need to use a sugar based wax (cooler temperature). Meant to hurt, though. Rather like waxing your pits, I guess.

I epilate my pits and was thinking of epilating down there. Not sure though. I guess you do your bikini line and then gradually remove more of it over time as you start to get used to the pain...