I think this sounds like an anger issue, so I think it would be best to find a therapist who specializes in anger management. I was once in an anger management group that was helpful (to a point----one person always dominated the group so that was a tad annoying.)

I think that a therapist who specializes in anger management would be able to help you with this issue. It sounds like you have anger issues stemming from childhood and the dogs are just an outlet for your anger.

But yes, I can understand where you're coming from, in a way. I get extremely irritated by this same sort of issue, but it manifests itself in different ways. In my case, I can indeed choose who I want to be around and my irritation isn't "just me" as I've spoken with others who get irritated by the same sort of thing. I don't have any extreme feelings of anger, its just general annoyance.