Hello hannabee: I don't know as I have any particularly useful suggestions for you here. I live in a hoa townhome & I was on the board for a while. My personal opinion of these things is that they're so fraught with interpersonal conflicts & conflicting objectives, as well as being riddled with lack of adherence to any of the applicable rules & regulations, that the whole process is simply not worth the bother. I guess somebody has to do it. But it certainly won't be me a second time around.

Having written that, my recommendation for what it's worth is to stay out of it. You're not on the board. But you'll certainly be blamed by anyone who doesn't like what is going on as well as by anyone who is who thinks they can use you for cover. Personally I don't give a rip what anyone else in our association thinks of me. I don't speak to any of them anyway...