Hey everyone, this is my first post. I'm 27. I've had this problem for years and sometimes I can't figure out if the problem is the men or me. First, it takes a good while for me to have an orgasm and I can never have one from just sex (I wish). I need a lot of clitoral stimulation and fingering from him and usually I need to help out so it will happen. Also I need a lot of foreplay beforehand and sometimes they do it and other times they don't want to spend too much time on foreplay. I get complaints that they're tired and their hands hurts from fingering me lol... Then it ruins the mood and makes me feel like I don't matter as much in bed. The problem is the sex feels great usually but when they're done and it's over (which doesn't take too long), I'm still very worked up and need a release.. Not every single time but mostly, yes. When he's done, he lays there wanting to hold me and I'm still super horny and can't relax, so he spends more time going down on me and doing things until I orgasm, then I can relax. But I feel like after a while, the men get tired of putting so much work in. I give a lot as well and i love it, so sex is definitely not all about me, I love giving.. I just need more to get off. I've been told once that sometimes I act like a child when it comes to wanting more in sex, which makes no sense in a way.. Yeah I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut and going to sleep after I'm not satisfied. I tell them what I need and what I like. I don't take sexual frustration well. I just feel like if you're satisfied, I should be too.. It's not fair. Other times I get told I want sex too often if it's more than once or twice in a night. And this isn't with anyone I live with or see often.. I understand if you're with that person every day, you need breaks but this is in dating and short relationships.. I've always wanted a real, long term relationship but haven't found it yet.

What do you guys think I should do about this situation? Do you think it's me or the men? Am I just asking for too much? I don't know how to calm down after sex without some sort of a release.. I feel like the foreplay gets me really in the mood but the sex makes me hit my peak and when it ends too soon, it leaves me frustrated. Please help me.