I am in the midst of ending my relationship with a narcissist right now. So odd, when I saw your post pop up, i thought I had wrote it a while ago or something.. We too lost everything to our name and started renting out the basement of my parents acreage.
Im trying to find the courage to leave. I know it's not good for me or my children to be here with him. Iv sacrificed so much to be with him.. and i really only came to the realization that he was the problem about 4 months ago.
I feel stupid I have been losing myself trying to get this relationship on track for the past 2 years.. blaming myself for every thing that has gotten us into this rut.
I don't know where to find the strength to leave him. The guilt literally eats me alive every day for thinking about leaving and the shame I feel for staying is just as strong. I confused and hurt
You are not alone.