... I admit that I am a recovering Codependent and attend meetings weekly, but I find myself struggling with another adult in the office.

I have often struggled with saying what I feel and end up making concessions for others to my own detriment in an effort to avoid conflict.

The same LOUDMOUTH in my office has now unleashed a war (or I perceive it that way) and I find myself resentfully backing down.

The new issue: Parking spaces and Bird Poop. I kid you not.

There's a tree outside our office where everyone parks. Over the past couple of days, the birds have gone bananas on our cars. They have literally been covered in poop by the end of the day.

So LOUDMOUTH makes a HUGE deal out of this even going to maintenance and asking them to cut down the tree

The codependent in me wants to rescue the birds and let her know how DUMB that would be. I did ask her why she just couldn't move her car, but I realize that would be me trying to control outcomes (codependent behavior). The whole ordeal left a bad taste in my mouth.

So after taking my own car to the car wash yesterday I determined that I would just park somewhere else today.

LOUDMOUTH actually did move her car yesterday but made it a point to let anyone within earshot know how UNACCEPTABLE it was for her to have to do this. This morning when I arrived I saw two open spaces away from the tree. I parked my car in the space closest to the building and went to work.

I never remotely thought about any consequences until LOUDMOUTH walked in. She made it a point to announce that "For someone who didn't care about bird poop on my car I had no problems taking HER space"

The other open space was literally two spaces away from where I parked!!! I passively aggressively stated that there is another space available but I could move if those few extra steps were a problem (OK, NOT THE BEST SOLUTION).

From there it turned into a thing. She agreed to let her brand new truck suffer the paint damage of the bird poop... blah, blah, blah.

My codependent solution: Resentfully move my car to another space. By now someone had taken the spot that was open before, so I had to park in another lot altogether.

The issue for me is not the space. It's HER!!! She's loud and obnoxious. This isn't the first time that she's made a big deal out of something small involving me and I don't appreciate it.

I wanted to let her HAVE it, but I don't want to appear unprofessional. I'm sick of having "diplomatic" boundary setting conversations with her. They don't work. I think it's petty to report her to the boss (although I wouldn't be the first one).

It seems to me like everyone just lets her get away with being this way. Others in the organization have commented about her antics but everyone seems to just let it go.

Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?