My T asked me to think about "humiliation" for a week between therapy sessions and, sure enough, I had a boss humiliate me publicly. I was trying to help him but my words got tangled up like that sometimes do and he got angry because he couldn't understand me and belittled me.

I felt hurt but then I felt anger since I had been trying to help him (I have a complex with trying to help people whether they want/ask for my help or not :-) but I realized that, with that particular person, I should stay away from him in that way. I decided I was trying my best to fix my problems (the difficulty making myself understood because I'm not clear in my speech) and that I couldn't allow him to humiliate me (as he'd done before). He'd never apologized to anyone that I knew of and was generally prone to fly off the handle like he had. So, I decided I wouldn't try to help him unless he specifically asked! And, I'd make sure I repeated what he said/asked for and make sure I understood and then make sure he understood/liked what I said. I'd get as concrete and "small" in what I was doing when I was working with him as I could so there'd be less chance of mistake. And, if he spoke to me in a humiliating fashion or rebuked me angrily or publicly again, I'd let him know I could not allow that (let him know I was angry with his behavior) and put him on notice that if he ever did it again, I would quit.

I was happy with how I "solved" what I wanted to do in the future and it made me feel better to have a plan. Sounds like you have to decide if you want to work on leaving other people's problems alone (and how to do that) or how better to accept when people get mad at you when you have interfered and are wrong. A plan for future action can make us feel better and more in control and raise our self esteem.