@Vibrating Obsidian. it's kind of hard to be compassionate with someone that is being accusatory and shaming of you, at the very least at the time it's happening.

The funny thing is, and btw I'm a man too and don't make provision for this fear. That in almost every situation where someone is questioned about their past sexual history it's the male in the relationship. I cannot recall (I'm sure it happens sometimes) when I've read one of these posts related to a person in a relationship saying their mate had problems of their sexual past where it was a female doing so. Again, not saying it never happens just saying I can't recall any male complaining about his gf or wife looking down and judging them on their past relationships.

I am not sure why this is, but I am merely stating what I've observed.

It's all well and good to say one needs compassion for someone but my question I would pose is, "where is the compassion for the one being shamed for a singular mistake in her life?"