We've been together 3 years.. were both 21.. have a kid on the way.. he's bipolar. Not on meds. And whenever he gets in a bad mood because things aren't working out for him to be productive I can never help him. I try to tell him that sometimes we can't always do something and it's not our fault. We don't have to let it ruin our day together. We can snuggle up and just relax but keeping the productive mind set and knowing we have to do these things when the time comes.. and he doesn't like that. He can't take pleasure from just relaxing with me. He shuts himself off and goes to be alone.. when he does finally come be with me hes got an attitude and keeps saying well what can we do. I want to be productive. I have to do something. And in all honestity.. there isn't much we can do.. I try so hard to be happy for him. And tell him we can keep our minds open and not forget the tasks at hand but to not let it ruin a potentially good day. And he doesn't like that. And he goes off being alone again. He says he's just gotten used to the fact that I can't help him when he's like this. And that he's been worrying about it because I'm not gonna be able to help the baby.. and I just don't know what to do anymore.. I keep feeling like I'm doing something right by reminding him it's about being able to keep the mindset of productivity even if we are spending a nice relaxing day together.. it hurts me that hes just gotten used to not being able to have my help..