My boyfriend has a hard time staying motivated sometimes and when things start to go wrong he shuts down and I have no idea how to help him. I try to be the kind loving supportive girlfriend he needs but it never works. I tell him that I understand why he feels like that and I try to remind him that things aren't going to always not work out. I try to help distract him by offering quality time and reminding him we are allowed to take a break and not feel like this but that we don't have to forget the things we need to do. I try to tell him that by being able to keep himself in a good mood and to still be able to say like a mature adult that when the time comes to do these things I will. And it never works.. he just shuts off. It makes me feel like **** because I can't even offer him quality time to help him feel better without getting shut down, because it's not productive. He comes at with me with an attitude saying things like well what can we do now to make things better. And honestly right now we're in a bit of a tough situation. We have a kid on the way, were both 21, but he's lost his job and can't get out of a funk. And he keeps telling me he's just gotten used to the fact that I can't help him when he feels like this. I have no idea what to do because I should be able to help him but I'm just lacking in that field and apparently offering nice quality time isn't good enough
What am I supposed to do...