Thanks SO much for sharing your story and advice. It has helped more than you know. I'm so sorry you to endure that with your own sister..
I agree on the similar tactics of narcissists. My mother is a narcissist and she lies and manipulates in the exact same manner.

I met with my therapist today, I was really upfront and honest about everything and we made a plan of action together for me leaving and she is helping with support as I have no close friends or family around. I leave to the womens shelter on Monday.. im nervous but feeling SO much more positive about the situation and less alone now.
I don't feel as confused or feel like I have an invalid reason to go to a womens shelter.
Thanks again