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Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian
Well, his dream seems like his #1 priority, so he probably can't think well of the relationship when he's starting to realize his dream is fading out.
I read about negative symptoms happening to men who turn into stay-at-home partners - they can develop that kind of complaining and can even develop depression.
I think going deep into his heart and understanding that he is devastated by his dream's outcome and being empathetic can ease his pain. It can take time, but it has to start with LEAP (Listening, Empathy, Acceptance and Partnering). You're partnering greatly as I see. Eventually you're gonna have to be there for each other, through the highs and through the lows.
He's not a loser, but feels life a loser. I'd say he's quite the warrior fighting for his dreams, you should be proud of it!
He may be depressed. I think he should get as much help and support as possible. Start with yourself, offer your heart and time for him, use both your free time to be there for him, even if it means staying at home and just talking things out at times for instance.
If you've really reached a point your help does nothing, consider a therapist to help guide him to a more suitable path regarding his dreams on one hand, and the current situation on the other hand.
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Obsidian, the OP has been picking up the cheque for the last 7 YEArS.
Reasonably how many more years of her life does she give this guy before he pulls his head out of his asse?
She has done Nothing but support him. There in lies the problem, he has forgot how to look after himself, and has lost the pride that goes with being a provider and supporter for your family.
Seesaw has it bang on, if you want to be in the arts you have to fund it first.
How many people aspire to be actors? Thousands but they have to run other jobs in the meantime.And in the end we might never even know who they were, because they can't all be famous.
I don't understand why if he loves production so much he isn't earning, to get software and a sound desk. Why he isn't out there Sampling local talent and running up free demo''s for them.
He is going to fall behind with the programs (software)etc. If he doesn't keep a hand in.
None of this is the OP's responsibility. It is never acceptable to expect another person to support you, especially if your a fully capable adult. Certainly not for the best part of a decade.
And one more thing,who'd pay for his therapist, that he needs?
Take a guess.
Anyway enough grumbling. We may just have to accept a differing of opinion on this one.