I totally understand the guilt and wanting more for your kids....knowing they deserve the best and feeling you fall short. But just to reassure you, if your kids grow up and the worst they can say is "mom didn't take us to extracurriculars" you know you did a very good job and provided your kids with a good life. Don't let the guilt consume you because it will become a self perpetuating cycle. I speak from experience. (((Hugs)))