"When you think about ending it, just remember bad things happen". <--- this is actually WHY people attempt...because bad things happen, over and over and over. It's a driving force behind attempts, not something that will stop a suicidal person, at least not me. I'm glad you survived, you are not to blame for your disability you are left with as a result of wanting to end your suffering, at least not from my viewpoint (((hugs)))

I hope you can hike the Grand Canyon someday. I'd be fine watching a good documentary about it as I don't have the wellness to enjoy such a thing. Our society is very ableist and assumes you must see something in person to enjoy it. I want to visit Europe, but physically and financially it's not possible so I watch documentaries and television shows which satisfy me. If you can't hike, would you enjoy watching? I know this would not satisfy most people but when you are unwell and unable it could be something for your toolbox.

Thank you for thinking of me. I know you mean well and that is what matters most to me. Your intentions are good. Obviously you have experience with attempts and I'm sorry. Speaking for myself only, the cautionary tale you've told wouldn't help me in crisis but your intentions could have an impact. Reaching out and trying to understand as best you can, could easily assist in saving a life.

I don't have a clue what to say to a suicidal person to make them stop. I wouldn't presume to know. I do have some ideas on what NOT TO SAY and what can make it worse, but this only concretely applies to me. For instance, if you say "think of your family" or "I stay alive for my family" and the person has no family or is estranged or delusional and thinks their family is after them, or is being abused by their family.....you've just put a nail in their coffin perhaps. It's very sensitive and I'm not qualified....even writing here I worry so much. I don't want to say the wrong thing but I DO. Everyone does sometimes. But if our intentions are good, that is what matters. If someone is in crisis and we say nothing to them, that can be deadly too.

Things go very wrong and very bad in life. They also go very right and good. Helping a person in crisis see the good is challenging. I've often thought I might make a good therapist, then I realize how very IMPORTANT and life threatening a bad therapist can be and I cannot assume the responsibility even with 10 years of training behind me. Power to the ones who feel they are qualified and I hope anyone in crisis is lucky enough to connect with a professional who actually is qualified in such matters. Or connect with a caring non judgmental unqualified one could make all the difference. Or find the perfect self help book, forum, pet....whatever might help, I hope the struggling person finds it. I'm glad you found what works for you and keeps you safe. (((Hugs)))

P.S. I hope I don't come across as argumentative, it's not my intention. Just sharing how I see things.