We had a host once who worked on average fifty hours a week and managed to be a single parent and manage life for a few years. At her worst point, she stayed in the house for over half a year. She was dealing with some harsh memories (flashback and body memories as well as other unpleasant imagery) and she had her hands full with coping with herself... other people were not happening. For us that was okay since it was important for us at that time to work through some heavy issues. Self care took priority. It made sense she would have had such anxiety, to us anyway.

For others in my system... some of us are just better at dealing with external matters than others. Sometimes one of us gets out of whack if we pick up on someone else or get set off by something we have yet to identify as a trigger.

Good luck figuring this out.

-Tay