This is for future reference really, I'd like to know if i expect too much in relationships and learn about boundaries for my future relationships etc.
For the past 2 years, I have been a stay at home mother to 3 children, partner works away sometimes for weeks at a time.
During our first pregnancy, he went away and ended up going on a night out drinking one weekend and didn't call until the next day. When he came home, he acted odd, i felt something was wrong and I checked his phone. (I know, bad) In the deleted pictures, there were photos of him taking selfies with another woman. I suspected infidelity and all my trust went out of the window.
I told him i wanted to build up the trust again if i was to forgive him, he agreed.
During the years, the same thing happens while hes away. He calls me after work, says he will call me later and then ends up drinking and spending our bill and rent money and not answering my calls or texts until the next day.

The more this happens, I get upset at him and he says im trying to control him. Its not that I don't want him not having fun while hes stuck working away... but i would appreciate him to shoot me a text or call on a night when he promises he will. I'm not exactly having a blast being home with the kids everyday and night alone.

This time, he called me after work, said he was going to hang out with his friends and I agreed and asked if he could text or call me before I went to bed, he said he would. He didnt, i called at 10.30 and it went to voice-mail l, i left a message to say I was upset he had forgotten to call or text me.

This morning he called like nothing was wrong, i said i was upset he didn't call or text last night like he said he would and he was extremely angry with me. He said im always trying to control him, don't let him have any fun etc.. which i did not care that he was out with friends.. i just appreciate him sticking to his word about shooting a text letting me know he wouldn't be able to chat or whatever..
I enjoy speaking to him while hes away, i get lonely at home being with the kids all the time and I never go out, I just look forward to his call all day.

Is it wrong at me for being upset about this? He acts like i expect too much from him, like I don't want him to have a life. But all I want is a phone call! My trust is gone from the lies, the spending money and the suspected infidelity 2 years ago.. i had just wanted to build the trust between us again.

I have chosen to leave this relationship as I am no longer happy. But I want to know.. from a man's point of view.
Is it frustrating and too much to ask for a quick call? Or at least a heads up he would be too busy to chat that night?
He makes me feel like im nagging and annoying which I hate.. i dont want to repeat the same mistakes in my next relationship to be honest. I want to learn from this failed relationship.