Things are getting so bad at my home. Of course, my "N" is good some days, but the bad days are now more than the good days. He is mentally abusing me but says it's me. I have been having panic attacks and seizures (mine are caused by a lot of stress). He claims I am mentally abusing the kids. He claims I ruined his son, because he doesn't want to face reality that his son is not him. I used to be perfect to him, be the best, be the most beautiful. Now I never get any attention expect bad attention. I am losing control because I walk on eggshells constantly. I am literally scared to say anything but some things just slip out. The other day he said he wanted to keep the family together, we are expecting a baby in January. But then he tells me I am on probation and if I don't change, he will leave. Have I been less patient with the children, yes...because of what is going on between him and me. He wants me to take an IQ test against him, to show his superiority. What kind of husband does that? I told him I am not the adversary. Yes, in school I was in the honors program and am very "book" smart. I feel this challenges him. But I don't go around shoving it in his face. He put me down because I didn't know a history question. To be honest, history is the last thing I want to think about (he watches the history channel constantly). I like the medical field. I have children with issues ADHD bipolar etc., and that is what I focus my energy on learning how to cope with them and help them. So most history knowledge from school, I graduated in 84, I have flushed from my brain. Who cares? He does. He told me he was superior to me. I am not ready to leave. The children will be the casualities. I have been praying real hard, but obviously that's not working. Should I feed his superiority complex to validate him? To make this marriage work? Who is staying with an "N" and how are you coping? All opinions welcome. Kmarie