I'm sorry. I didn't mean to cause you distress!

You wrote earlier: My counselor is making a career choice and this is about him and not about me. I understand that.

This I can relate to. I rationalize and intellectualize everything also. At an intellectual level it is all so very clear cut and matter of fact.

Emotions... not so much.

You do understand that his decision is a functional one and not a personal one.

Annnnnnnnnnnnnnd

it still hurts.

Is there anyway to bridge the gap between those two distinct and separate but bothtrueandrightatthesametime realities?

Can hurt be comforted by the intellect sharing the knowledge?
Can the intellect learn to have compassion for the pain?

Am I helping or simply making things hurt more?

Be compassionate and accepting of you, TR.