Hi DadFMF,

If she felt that she was in a bubble, then she's giving her 'repressed feelings' major expression I suppose (?) - problem is, that's for when you are SINGLE.

She may even be one of those going through a crisis - not everyone goes through at 40+
Your marriage is over (version 1, that is) - if it is to be, it will - VERSION 2, but right now, it is healthiest for you to accept that it is over for your own sanity and well being re: kids.

These are her issues not yours, don't feel badly. You took ownership ... An adult would have sorted it out with you. Gone for counselling as you said. Something is up with her. HER. You do you.

This is your time to re-evaluate what you want & need FOR YOU. Use it! Be a good father for your kids. Feel as badly as you need you - you need to feel your emotions ... whenever you can.

I have had terrible days myself, I journal, walk do whatever I have to to get rid of the pain & I started exercising to take care of myself. Most days are better now, although there are some 'downers' - but thats reality.

You can't do more - beer? cigarettes? She's dealing with her own mess!! Let her.
You do YOU. I wish you the very best