i know what you mean about hating your sister. my eldest sister called me a vegetable for years after an accident i was in. she got the others in the family, 9 of them ,to call me that too. unbelievably just this past year she got close with me, and sent me 100 dollars in a card this year!!! we finally made up, i'm 56 and she's 57. yes it took that long too!