I used to receive care at the hospital where I worked. When I expressed concern to my pdoc about my privacy because of this, he showed me the computer and showed me how you had to go through two screens to get to psych notes (that essentially said ' do you REALLY want to see this'). This made me feel better. Until I found out that my pain doctor -at the same hospital- had been reading my T notes (!) and came out with some things my T had said about me. I was embarrassed and pissed but didn't say anything. I admire you for potentially taking this further.

I can say that according to law ONLY people who NEED (clinically) to read your medical record may do so. If you have nothing to do with that person's care, you may not read it. But that's meant more for people not treating you. It's frankly hard to say if your gyn can read your psych notes. If he felt he needed to for your treatment (and I guess could make that argument, i.e. checking notes to see if moods coincided with your period) I guess it can make sense.

That aside, it sounds like he treated you like crap, and I would definitely look for another gyn. No right on earth to treat you like he did. I don't know what happened with the IUD, but I actually had a horrendous experience with that too.

I would check with the patient representative (or advocate, they're called different things in different hospitals). You can lodge a complaint through them that goes to the gyn's boss. They can also tell you if it was appropriate, under the rules of that hospital, for your gyn to look at your psych notes. In any case, that's the road I'd take if I wanted to go forward with it.

Best of luck! You don't deserve to be treated that way and please don't feel bad about following up on it!