yes it can be frustrating at time but I prefer to send my posts in to the moderators. what can I say Im a perfectionist at heart

also wanted to reply to your question about the book in this thread... no its not a DID book. its a book for and about PTSD (some locations call this developmental trauma disorder if they are using the ICD name for PTSD)

in general its to help people and their treatment providers with understanding the scientific side of how the brain works, how memory process works and how anyone who experiences any form of trauma be it wars, natural disasters, emotional sexual physical abuse and other forms of trauma that cause what my location calls PTSD and other trauma and other related disorders can have memory problems, anxiety, depression flashbacks, dissociative symptoms. topics in the book includes...
things like flight or fight, understanding what feelings are, learning how to express your feelings, negative and positive survival coping tools that you have used in the past vs changing your negative thinking and behaviors for the better, how to recognize when you are in an abusive relationship, how trauma hinders a persons personal growth and causes PTSD symptoms, how to take things one step at a time rather than getting overwhelmed in the feelings and memories of the past.

the reason I answered my reply was because for some people who may have alters that quoted section is used in my location by treatment providers as a way for those with DID to explain more about their alters and what its like to be those alters...

also my location goes by the standard that all human beings have parts of self...

example I am a mother, wife, co worker, daughter... in each of these situations I naturally act and behave differently... I would not do the same things I do with my children with my wife and would not treat my children like I do my wife kind of thing...

every human being naturally switches into the natural sides of their self given the situation they happen to be in.

in this normal parts of self standard that same paragraph means to learn how to separate those parts of self... how do I feel when I am being the mother of my children vs how do I feel when I am alone with my wife....

in general the paragraph in the book means where I am talking about the normal parts of self, but I also took into consideration that the poster who may be DID, their treatment provider might be using this as a way for them to tell the treatment provider what they mean when they say they have alters and what it feels like to be alters.

its one of those things that can go either way depending upon how and what the book is being used for in therapy.