Studies show that childless couples are happier in general but those with children have higher peaks of happiness. You win either way.

I've raised 2 boys and while it hasn't been easy, we were able to protect them from the brunt of my illness and provided a safe, loving environment with lots of happiness, love and gateways towards success. I couldn't have done it so well alone but fortunately I have a close family and my husband to take over when I've needed to be away. Having a support system is vital, whether you have bipolar or not.

My husband and I have always planned to have another child but I've been too sick and now I'm 42 so it's likely not going to happen. I would go med free, start taking prenatal with folic acids before trying and then stay in steady contact with all my doctors.

You could always "freeze some eggs" so you have more time to decide. A bipolar parent can be the best parent in the world. Know yourself and how bipolar plays for you to determine if you feel you're up to the job. I've known people with mental health issues who should not have had kids and ended up having 5. I've known people who felt they were going to be a failure as a parent who did a wonderful job.

There is no guarantee your child will be healthy no matter what. That is something to consider too. What if your child is sick or disabled? If a big question for sure. In my first marriage I couldn't wait for a baby and didn't think too much or I might have talked myself out of it. People always wait for the "right time" and the right now often never arrives. Only have a baby if you REALLY want one. Take some time to figure out what you REALLY WANT.

(((Hugs)))