I usually do a "single person date night". I'll buy myself something nice, like chocolates, cook a nice meal, relax in my pj's, eat my dinner, take a soothing bath, chocolate, watch a movie or read a book, that sort of stuff. Since I don't have someone else to pamper, I choose to pamper myself, instead of wallowing in feeling alone. It's been said that we cannot be fully present in a relationship if we are not able to truly care for ourselves... not sure about that, but my plan does include a long bath, at the least.