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I'm well acquainted with the things that are going on in your life right now. It's not fair. It's not right. It IS painful. But...

I'm sure that your depression is making it feel 100X worse that it really is. Been there, done that. Depression lies to us so horribly and we believe it. We swallow what it tells us hook, line and sinker.

Something else you need to be careful of us "blank and white" thinking; all or nothing. It always isn't so... what we tell ourselves; things like "always" and "never". It may seem absolute, but maybe it isn't, ya know?

For more information on Cognitive Distrotions, go the the Psychology forum. There's a sticky at the top of the forum that gives them to you. I believe now there are explanations to go with them.

Is there really something that physically stops you from going to the Thanksgiving dinner that everyone is going to? Don't let your feelings get the best of you and stop you from going. If you can't make it at the time set, then show up when you can. It's not the same, but at least you'll share in a bit of the festivities.

On Thanksgiving Day, go to your parents house whether there is a dinner or not. You don't HAVE to be alone on that day.

Check out those Cognitive Distortions. Try and work at least the Black and White thinking. Fight back that depression! Don't listen to it. Things are difficult enough as they are.

Hang in there and keep posting, ok?