It sounds like you are the invisible child. That has to be the most painful one. Don't punish yourself because they've changed the holiday schedule. Go if you want to, but don't just react to them. Choose what is best for you.

If sounds like your sister isn't ever going to apologize to you. She's probably too messed up to help you. It isn't fair, but it's easier once you realize that you're probably the sane one in your family. (Have you figured that one out yet?)

What the hot line people did to you was unforgivable.

You are the one who reached out for help by coming here. The others in your family don't even know how miserable they are. Respect yourself, because you deserve it.

Stay connected to us. I think we all may be able to get each other through these awful holidays.