First....CRY...go ahead and let yourself cry....it is the best thing....
I am only throwing out thoughts...as I wish to be helpful....There may be a factor with your friend...who could be feeling a lot of negative things about herself also...in the having to ask you to leave....and so this fingernail polish is what she is going to attach to....and take those emotions away from her and on to someone else....it is probably not about the fingernail polish at all....
Some times just letting yourself be vulnerable with someone who is angry defuses the situation...because anger is not the true emotion...it is always covering up something else...and anger is the dressing to hide it.....
say....you have offered to pay for the repair.....you know it wasn't intentional...and that we are all under too much stress...and your daughter isn't an adult and you don't want to escalate the situation because your daughter is hurting too...and she might act out....just tell her You are sorry it happened....that you love her...and you are thankful for her helping you...you don't want to lose her friendship over what has occurred....tell her again you will repair it....
then if she is not agreeable still...when you go the last time leave the money anyway...
Sometimes there is nothing you can do to mend hurt...especially if there is someone acting out upon hidden emotions...the only thing you can do....is change the way YOU respond....keep telling her you are sorry it happened...and you are thankful for the friend she has been.......then every time you see her act lovingly towards her....either enough time will pass and your loving attitude will open some pathway or it won't....this is someone being unreasonable....and you can not reason with it...so try and act the softest way you can towards her....if you wish to keep the friendship....
Once I let someone stay at my home....getting her away from an abusive relation ship....we were good and then she quit talking to me....I just kept leaving loving messages....and then it came the reason why.....she was ashamed of herself....because of things she did.....we worked through it...she kept thinking I was going to judge her...
I am sorry this is happening to you....women should never be homeless...we are nesters....it makes us crazy....just try and keep settling yourself for you and your daughter...that is the best thing you can do....
Okay...I am done throwing words at you....I hope you find a solution that works for you....
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