If everyone picks up after themselves this rarely becomes an issue.

Everyday take a walk through you're house and pick up things out of order. Both

Dishes? It takes probably less than 15 mins to wash a sink of dishes, dry and put away daily. She wash you dry type deal.

Basically offering to pay her or have her pay less if she does the cleaning ? That would infuriate me .

Laundry ? Toss a load in , both of you.

Mind you all of the about chores can be done by both. Anyone can spend 15 mins daily to keep a home clean.

If daily chores are taken care of by both then get on the game, she can do whatever she wants.

Do you both take care of the cat? Litter box ... etc ? That's a a daily chore.

Mountains out of molehills can lead to no good for both.