I've been wondering of late if my mental approach to potential situations, be it work related or relationships, etc, is part of the problem. I very much approach things in a 'What am I capable of?' questioning method, which, as my self confidence isn't great, leads to me not believing in myself and the answer 'not much'. For example when I think about applying for jobs I think about what I'm capable of and as such limit it to what I think my skills currently are.

The question of what I actually want in life has barely crossed my mind but maybe that's a better way of going about things.Thinking about what you want in life and going after it and working through difficulties to get what you want. That seems to be proactive and forward thinking where as my current method is limited by the present, the past, and my outlook. I hear other people talk about what they want - so maybe most people go about things in that way? I don't know.