I thought that "dealmeout's" council was very appropriate. I found myself wondering about your husbands age in order to attempt to evaluate his maturity level or lack of it. charity/love does begin at home, and thinking about whats best for you and your son is where thats at. I could suggest organizations like al-anon where people who are affected by alchoholic's support each other...I do understand that you love your husband, but does he really love you? love is an action word so watch his actions...your husband has some serious issues to work out, unfortunatly for him, it's just not right for you and your son to have to be put through it too.heres my advice, I'd stay right where you're at, and I'd give him about 6 months to straighten up...on his own, keep him no closer than arms length and see what happens. he'll act like he's doing what you want but don't believe it. make him prove it,if he does'nt understand his need to do that you'll know that he just does'nt "get it" and you should move on. my guess is that it won't take the full 6 months to figure this out, you're hoping for a miracle,so I'll hope with you.