(PS tomorrow I'm going to phone at least one potential therapist.. not looking forward to
this.. the doctor (uk) recommended meds only )
I'm hanging on for Papa Bear - if I go further down this seal hole I'll be outta "options"
(Sorry I feel like deleting this, I don't want to "waste" anybody's time - I was told by a medic years ago that self care was basically "wasting" his time.. I was just trying to stay as healthy as I could but wtf..)

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I can not believe how much it hurts me to hear you in such pain ... and believe me when I say you can just "waste" my time anytime you need or want to ... I value your friendship and if there is ever anything I can do to lighten your load let me know ...
your friend .. love ... Tigger .