Hi youOme,

I really believe that women (and maybe men) cheat on their spouses because they are not fulfulled in some area of their marriage.

I am very surprised that your friend knows and accepts the act for what it was. I am very happy for you and she that all worked out for the best.

I do believe that if you no longer have feelings for your husband as he is horrible to you, you owe it to yourself and children to break ties with him. You know, you do deserve better treatment.

I am not passing judgement on you for cheating on your husband. To me, it just shows that he lacking interest or ignoring a needed area of your marriage.

If you do not wish to leave your husband, I think that the only choice is to find a good marriage counselor and seek help. If he refusses to go, then maybe that is indicative that he has lost interest, too. I would be temped to tell him that both of you see a marriage councelor or go your separate ways as you are no longer going to accept his treatment of you. If you do not care to take the time or make effort to see a marriage counselor, then you have answered the question of whether or not to stay with him.

As a side note, if my husband treated me horribly, I just don't think that I would sacrifice myself to have sex with him. No Way, No How. To do so would make me feel like I was sacrifcing myself just to please him when he is only interested in me when he wants sex. This is just me.

I hope that you feel that I am not passing any type of judgement against you. After all, what may be beneficial to you may not be so for me.

Take Care,
Peacemaker