In September 2015, I started dating again after being single for a long time. I started with a mobile app and soon became intrigued by online dating. I met a fella online who was from the same state as me and as it turned out, we attended the same high school, graduated 1 year apart, knew the same people and worked for the same restaurant. We're both into politics, music and food. He was so fun to be around and I felt so happy with him. At that point, he was perfect on paper.

When we met, I was smitten. He was the first guy at the time, who helped my heart heal from a previous breakup two years prior. Needless to say, we talked for hours and set up a second date at the end of the first.

Then a third date came, a fourth and a fifth and soon things were taking off. It's crazy to think about but we had so much fun together and we had so much in common that I could see something long term, possibly marriage. I was drawn to his intelligence, his poise, kindness, values, work ethic, charismatic and playful personality, humility and love for the people in his life. The best part was that he came from a very good and stable family. Every person in his family was successful in their career, something I admired.

Then, after a month, things got quiet. He's not much of a texter, which he admitted to me, so I knew that. It was the fact that I was taking the initiative the majority of the time and thought he was just uninterested after long periods of not talking. I was nice about it at first. Then I got fed up with not hearing from him for long periods of time (a few days to a whole week). He was so hard to get ahold of and I didn't know what to do.

I cracked. I felt crazy. I called him out on his behavior and told him he was being rude and I was frustrated by the lack of communication. What was going on that was so important? He insisted on being extremely busy with work and I knew he was not seeing anyone else. He was studying to be a CFP Certified Financial Planner - a very worthy goal indeed. But it seemed like that was all he had time for. I was also and still am pursuing my Master's and working full time, so I didn't buy his explanation. Anyway, fast forward, I finally got to see him in person and we talked about it. I was looking past his behavior and focusing on how much I liked him in spite of how he was acting. Honestly, I felt so crushed but we decided mutually to stay friends. He admitted that he wasn't ready and couldn't give me what I wanted. I admitted that I really liked him (while shaking and on the verge of crying), and I wanted to be with him.

From that point on, I didn't talk to him ever again but I couldn't shake him. I thought about him from time to time, and now fast forward to this week. After a year of dating other people, living life and switching careers, I still think of him and how he made me feel in those moments. I'd gotten over how mad I was and forgave him. So I texted him out of the blue this Monday to see if he would want to catch up and if he even remembered me. He texted back right away and asked me how he could ever forget. He has since moved back to our hometown and lives closer to his family. While I don't expect to generate anything from our short conversation, I want to know your opinion. Was this a good idea? I wonder if things have changed within the last year and if there could be something between us now. Should I move on? 😔😯