You said parenting and lack of discipline is at fault too. Are you related to Dr Phil? He blamed the behavior of children with ADHD on parents who did poorly with discipline. Were that to improve he suggested behavior would also. Both of you obviously have no personal experience raising a child with ADHD(you and Phil). I think she should take you up on that offer. Keep him for a day or two before you start begging her to come and get him. That would be great. It would give her a much needed break and you some education on the subject. Her description ,as brief as it is , for a boy of 5 would suggest that he be sceened for ADHD by the pediatrician who will then make a referral to a psychiatrist for an evaluation. God forbid the pediatrician make the diagnosis and prescribe the meds. There are some real horror related to this. There is also a shortage of psychiatrists in this country, and in addition to that no effective behavioral treatment required when behavioral symptoms are severe, to go along with the med.Us folks in the ADHD community appreciate your concern for your neighbor, but we'd like to see it given without a dose of poor parenting accusations from individuals with no book learning on the subject nor any real close up and personal experience. You couldn't even begin to guess what that house is like inside behind the closed doors. it is a serious problem when an ADHD kid gets behind in school. That kid should get diagnosed and an evaluation so that he gets the services that he requires If you want to help, get on her case about getting that done and forget about her being a not so good parent and you a better one. Quit acting so superior when you were lucky and she wasn't. You could be raising a child with ADHD that you couldn't control or manage his behavior. Why don't you go over and give a hand with the homework? Show her how it's done . You won't last 15 minutes before you're running out of the house screaming that kid needs to be sen by a psychiatrist, and real soon.