Yes. I had Googled my marriage counselor back in early December and found his wife's Facebook page (it was pretty locked down, so I could only see current and past profile pictures). I told him about it via text, and he called me to ask what I'd found. He was concerned that I'd actually found an update page that his wife's sister posted about his wife's health condition. I confirmed it wasn't that, and he asked that I not go digging around anymore. I said I wouldn't. Also in the call, he said he'd probably have to take some time off soon, but he wanted to make sure I knew if he canceled, it wasn't related to my Googling.

And I kept that promise until about a month later, when he did have to cancel at the last minute. I said something to T about the cancelation, and she seemed really sad and said she really wished she could tell me what was going on. I had a really bad feeling. So I did Google his wife, and the first thing that came up was her obituary--she'd passed away about 10 days earlier.

I was scared that MC would be angry at me--and he would have had every right to be. When we had our next session (we'd let him know we knew with brief condolence e-mails before that), I apologized to him, saying I wasn't looking for forgiveness, that I just felt really bad for breaking a promise. He said he wasn't angry with me. The next session, something came up about it again, and i said I didn't understand why he wasn't angry, that he had every right to be. He said again that he wasn't. And that even if he was--and he wasn't--it would have been OK. And that he wouldn't have terminated us or anything.