Hello guys,

Thanks so much to both of you for the advice and kind words.
They have given me something to think about. Some new insight is always great.

Skeezyks, I'm sure you are not old at all! Age is only a number. Plus, the best advice comes from experienced individuals.

Indeed, communication is key, always, and we have spoken about the situation, but I think, as you said, on the long haul it's going to be even more important to keep things as clear as possible.

Therapy is a great idea and I will consider it for myself. He has had counseling along the way, but he is very stubborn and independent and is reluctant to open up in a professional setting. Maybe I can suggest that to him in a warm and friendly way.

Thanks for all the feedback! I love this forum and will make the most of my time here.

Misssy 2, your words were a little more direct, but I appreciate it. Indeed, being an adult, I knew what I was getting myself into and I did not shy away from it because of my feelings toward this man.

The feeling of being used is something I resent but it comes to me involuntarily. I'm not the whiny type and I don't like to victimize myself (I come from a family where I have seen a lot of my loved ones indulge in victimhood and I have always done my best to avoid it, as it brings nothing good).

But you are right in that he has been honest with me and has not promised me anything.

However, as feelings go, even if I know all of these facts rationally, it is sometimes hard to always be cerebral about the whole thing.

I will think about your advice! I do spend a lot of time with my family and friends. I have learned from past relationships that focusing all your energy on one person is more often than not, destructive for both the people and the relationship.

Thanks again and if anyone else has any extra-feedback, it would be muuuuch appreciated.