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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
Is there no limit to the weird things therapists do? Sheesh.
I would address her by name with Dear X in your next email, and keep doing it. Point made.
(I am assuming she is more clueless than malicious, but I don't know your story.)
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That was my instinctive response, to head to email with Dear Old T or put the receptionist's name in quotation marks or follow it by a question mark
but the more I thought about it, the more I realized it could probably land me in more bother than it's worth.
I don't think it was malicious since the emailing has been helpful overall. Clueless that I could guess it was her? Probably, but I don't understand her motive for pretending to be the receptionist other than it being a reflection that she is avoiding any further contact with me, she doesn't trust me to respect her boundaries or she doesn't want to provoke any response/reaction from me for both her sake and mine.
I have to say that the initial email I received, before I even realized it was from her, made me feel angry in the way a child would, like I wanted to throw a tantrum. This is odd because it was part of our dynamic throughout therapy.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
Could you use a different clinic or group of therapists?
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Yes and no. My options are limited to three, one of which I am still waiting on and is a trek into a scary area of town on foot which I'd rather avoid. The other has a waiting list of over a year and I have already lost many years of my life to mental illness. Therefore, I made up my mind to go with this center and if the worst comes to the worst and I find the possibility of bumping into old T too difficult, I can always leave and continue waiting on the other two.
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Originally Posted by doogie
EEK. I don't know. Yes, I think I would be angry without knowing the 'Why' behind it. If you understood the why, it might make more sense....but yes, I would be angry not knowing why.
As to responding, I don't know how I would do it. Part of me would want to be really passive aggressive and not say anything other than to address my response "Dear (old T)" just so that she would know that I knew who it really was, but that probably isn't the healthiest thing. I guess I would just respond normally, as if I didn't know. I think I would definitely talk to the 'real' receptionist at some point and clarify what in the world is going on.
So sorry. This would not make me happy, either.
Doogie
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I agree that responding with "Dear (old T)" probably isn't the healthiest way of addressing the situation, even though it was my instinctive response.
Responding normally as if I didn't know is probably the most sensible option but it kind of makes me feel crushed as a person, like my feelings about this "situation" don't matter, as long as old T feels righteous and safe(?).
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Originally Posted by here today
How was the emailing about the arrangements going otherwise? Satisfactory or did she appear to be stalling things?
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Apart from the initial email, the emailing was going fine. My queries were answered and I was not being held up.
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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
If you are certain, I think I would just tell her straight that it's okay to communicate in an administrative way but I would prefer a direct approach and not behave as though we did not know each-other. Other than this, I would definitely prefer a different clinic and would feel uneasy that my communications might run into the old T in the future.
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I like this idea
and as I said above, I always have the option of another center if this one goes awry.
Thanks to all for responding. Any more thoughts and ideas are welcome.