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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
She's great in so many ways, and really abusive in others. I love her very much.
I'm at a crossroads of a lot of feelings of guilt about not wanting to let her suck the blood out of me now.
I wish it was just all loving, and she hadn't exploited and used me, and she hadn't ruined everything she couldn't control. I wish she could just be nice and non-toxic. I'd help her more then.
But, at least she didn't mess with my blanket.
Can a Narcissist be a great mother all in all?
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My sympathy with you.
Narcissists can be confusing people, I had a friend who has some narcissist tendencies.
They're like snakes, they cuddle you up with comfort, but it takes time to notice they're actually strangling you, so you run. On one hand, you're free from the strangling. On the other hand, it was comfortable before it felt bad. The snake is chasing you, but you're unsure whether it chases you to hurt you, or seek comfort with you.
They know how to get you, but don't know how to treat you. But perhaps sometimes there are "errors".
I'm sorry you have to go through this, yet perhaps it's the right thing to focus on the... "errors"?, and keep being the strong person as you are now.