I appreciate everyone's posts on this highly upsetting topic that has occurred in my life also. I have tried to understand why and spent years reliving life in our past trying to ascertain exactly where I went wrong. I finally joined a group and sort of"tweaked " the applicable guidelines for my particular situation and it really was helpful. But after moving out of the city to an area that offers zero sources for survival, I find that I falter so very much now. It's difficult in all areas of life but without my children and grandchildren to enjoy I cry more than I ever thought possible.
I do believe that I my situation, my children and their spouses live busy active lives. I am thankful for that actually. I would like to believe that as they get older they will want to know more about their history from whence they came! In the meantime, I try to remember that they must work thru the perceived slights or whatever at their pace. Which says more about them than me when they keep their distance and refuse contact for years. Love to know more about the online resources and elsewhere that are available for folks such as us. Thanks for the insight here.~~