Hello, everyone!

I'm new to this forum, but I've read great posts and feel comfortable in writing about the issues of my life from the relationship side of things.

Last year I decided to divorce my wife of nearly 11 years. It wasn't easy to do, but it was the right thing to do. She wasn't abusive in the physical sense -- it was more verbal. There were issues with having to take care of her family financially while she wouldn't work for the last three years. I held on as long as I could to make it work for my stepdaughter.

The divorce wasn't a pretty one but seemed like it may be at first. On 21 February we decided to split on what felt like good terms. By that Saturday she had drained my bank account and changed the locks on the house. It was finalized by the beginning of November, but the toll it took was tough.

On top of that, I started dating a woman that I had known forever. We felt it would be good for both of us to rent a place together since it would be cheaper in the long run for both of us. I can feel some eyes rolling after reading this paragraph

What I didn't realize about my girlfriend is she has some psychological issues. Our second day at the new house she was crying about this being a bad idea. Most days I feel as though I walk on eggshells because I simply don't know what version of her I'll get when I walk through the door.

But the reason for her actions came clearer this past Monday when she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. It was a relief to both of us that it can be treated, but it is a long road. I now know the anger she would direct my way wasn't really toward me but came out of the illness.

Tonight we had a terrible fight that I feel I escalated after trying to use one of the suggestions I read on one of the many sites over the past few days to defuse the situation. The amount of embarrassment I feel right now is killing me inside, but she is still mad at me. I fear that I pushed her too far after a day where she had her second intense session in the same week after the diagnosis.

I rarely burst out in anger over anything. And I did this to a woman I love. I felt like a monster. I did apologize almost immediately, but I probably should have waited to do so.

I bring all of this up because I want to know what I'm doing wrong in finding women that aren't altogether there emotionally.

I don't want to lose my girlfriend as she begins this journey to clarity, but am I holding her back? Should I be alone for a while before trying to piece my own life back together?

I apologize if this post sounds selfish but I could really use advise.