My therapist fairly regularly reminded me that I wasn't in that place/situation now. I understand the initial reaction of that feeling invalidating, but I came to realize those words were actually empowering. They were a reminder that, yes, I was there once, but I'm not there anymore. In fact, I would never be in that situation now as an adult because I have the wherewithal and drive and strength to protect myself in healthy and independent ways. I'm not that same person now that I was then. Reminders of that growth and distance from my past have become part of the skill that I am able to use now on my own so that as Echoes so wonderfully stated, I can honor my anger but I "don't let it get behind the wheel and drive." (Love that, Echoes.)