Over the years I've had to sever a few unhealthy friendships, or just friendships that went from being wonderful to draining.

I cut two of my ex best friends out of my life because one was emotionally abusive and the other decided to ghost me, so I left it. Another old friend was very 'my way or the highway' so, after too many chances, I left that alone too. A recent friend decided that she 'had no respect for transgender people', and I'm trans, so I'm ready to leave her behind as well.

My old psychiatrist encouraged me to leave any relationship that drained me, because bad relationships really mess with my head. I realise it's not always 100% easy, but I have my boundaries. I figure once those boundaries are crossed, I'm done.

That's healthy, isn't it?

But meanwhile my mental health support worker is telling me I should give these people second or third chances, like I have NOTHING to be upset over. Ummmm?

It's taken me all of my 28 years to grow a spine and to stop letting people use and abuse me. But now I'm being told I'm overreacting and need to consider the other people. As in, I should forgo my boundaries and let people stomp all over me again? Uh...

So I'm really confused. Am I overreacting? Should these people really be given more chances? (Some of them have had 3-4 already, ha...)