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Originally Posted by thesnowqueen
Can you explain more about 'being in it'? Also - I'm not sure I understand her response that 'feeling like you want more from her' is somehow part of the process. If you were subject to that unavailability as a child surely re-experiencing it will not be healing? Is this really you projecting a past figure into her or is she just emotionally limited and you are picking that up?
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When I'm in it, I'm reexperiencing my painful past.
The thing is, I know T is a caring person - no I'm not a victim of Stockholm syndrome with her - but there are times, when I guess I'm in crisis, I need her more.
In a email exchange not so long ago about a self harm thing I do, T admitted in email, that she finds it upsetting and probably pushes her feelings away around it, and I feel, she toys to avoid it.
But, I also understand the concept of "the work" .
I've been here before and know the process how it works, we come out of it together.